I have a hard time making decisions. (I'm a libra, what can I say)
I tend to pretend that I can have control of my life and outcomes if I just make the right decisions... which is a large load to put on one's shoulders.
So with the stress of having to figure everything out perfectly I have often found myself seeking answers from outside sources... ya know friends, co-workers... google. If I could gather enough data, enough stories of others' life experiences, I could make the best decision for me.
Except that that is the problem. It's never an answer for me. When someone gives you their opinion, solicited or otherwise, they are not suggesting what YOU should do to make YOURSELF happy. They are making a statement about themselves. They are going through their past experience, projecting themselves into your situation, and brining all of their baggage and filters with them. Sometimes this is done with the best of intentions, sometimes it's an unwanted gift. But in all cases I urge you to proceed with caution.
In a recently relationship issue, I sought advice from all friends around me. Most were overly willing and eager to share their wisdom by telling me exactly what to do. I felt judged, angry, and resented sharing my situation at all.
But then there was the friend who didn't judge. She didn't instruct. She asked questions. She guided me to think in different perspectives, to find my own answers. And I realised that her advice never had anything to do with her personal opinion.
My mother was another great example. When I called her upset she said, "I don't know what to tell you. I haven't dated in over 35 years". At first her answer upset me, but what an honest gift. My mom was aware that her experience was 3 decades off of anything I may be experiencing now.
My favourite author and speaker Gabrielle Bernstein coined the term "ing" which stands for Inner Guidance System. This is your intuition, it's following your heart and questioning your head. Feeling your gut instincts and always choosing love over fear. It's almost like the GPS on your phone, except of course, it's inside you! Which is where all of the answers meant FOR YOU will come from anyway right?
So maybe take a recommendation about the best Taco Tuesday venue, or which Netflix series to binge watch on a rainy day but that's about the only level on which you need others input. Do you. Choose love. Choose Ease. Do things that scare you, and thrill you and don't worry about the opinions of the masses.