The phrase "letting go" always used to spark a fear in me. It indicated sadness and loss, giving up. I was the kind of person who couldn't wrap her head around how forgiving a person who had wronged you was the right thing to do. I held on to words, actions, things. I still have boxes of card that have been sent to me from birthdays and holidays... and I'm not sure what I'm saving them for. But as I mature, as I calmed down and quiet my mind, I can understand these concepts much better.
I was excited to find that the theme for my women's circle this month was LETTING GO! I certainly have a lot I would benefit from letting go of. Like most people I could benefit to let go of: the negative comments that run through my head on repeat, clutter in my home, the idea I can control things where I can't, and a million fears and beliefs that don't serve me.
During our time together in the circle, our host brought out paints, glitter, sea shells, old magazines and glue, and we spend time decorating boxes... our Spirit Boxes.
The rules of a Spirit Box are simple:
1. You write down anything you are ready and needing to let go of and put it in the box.
2. By placing something in the box, you are agreeing to let your higher power handle this issue and agreeing to stop worrying over it.
3. If you continue to worry about the issue you placed in the box, you must take it OUT of the box, and not put it back in utill you are ready to hand it over and let it go.
*How Beautiful* :)
We all wrote something we were ready to let go of on paper and placed in our spirit box and shared this with each other in part of a letting go ceremony.
I wrote down the names of two people. One was someone I had been in a romantic relationship with, and the other was a best friend that I no longer speak to. I have realized for sometime now that while I've been grieving these relationships, I have also been romanticising them- pretending they were perfect and always fulfilling, and this made me feel so wounded and also set me up to keep wondering if they would ever be repaired.
Now though, I realized that they were not perfect relationships. They ended for reasons. Hanging on to these people are like keeping anchors in the water, it was time to get rid of these anchors and let my ship move forward.
I placed there names in the box and shared my thoughts with the group. And during a closing meditation, I suddenly saw myself hugging my best friend that I was letting go of. This image just unexpectedly popped into my head. We were in a place we had spent a lot of time together. I told her I loved her and I wished the best for her, but I had to let her go. I told her, "Goodbye". Eyes closed, I felt tears falling and knew that while this still felt sad, it was right, and it was strong, and it was no longer my problem to feel bad about.
Sometimes letting go is sad. Sometimes it's challenging. But even when it's difficult, if we pay attention to our bodies, I think we can feel a shift. We can de-clutter our spirits and minds by saying we no longer wish to entertain ideas, stories, beliefs that make us feel bad.
I encourage everyone to try Spirit Boxes. Make them with friends, your kids, or maybe a cat or dog by side ;) Paint them, decorate them, access your inner child. And then start letting go. Start making room for beautiful wonderful things that will nourish you and lift you up!
Love & Light, Jamie